Social-Emotional Learning: Responsible Decision-Making

 

I talk with many, many teachers every week. From our discussions (and also from my own experience as an educator and a parent) I have learned that too often we cut time from a very important part of our personal lives: Self-care. Yet, our work is easier, and I also think we can do it better, if we take care of our own well-being. For me, this often means a walk in the nature. Just because it is so awesome! 

I know I am very privileged to live near the forests and mountains and streams! It is easy to get out and walk among the trees - those gentle giants. and I wish more people had the opportunity to do that. 

This is also the reason why I think the SEL competency for reflecting on our roles to promote well-being also extends to protecting the nature - so that also the future generations can walk in the forests and feel refreshed! 

Social-Emotional Learning: Self-Management

 Organizing and planning are important SEL skills. I remember a Finnish saying from my childhood:

Literal: Well planned is halfway done.

Usually translates as: Well begun is half done (wiki)

But sometimes I feel that there is, oh, so very, very much planning to do in my days or weeks. Fortunately I have realized that some mundane taks scattered throughout my days can give a much needed break from thinking too much.

NCS 2021

While sweeping the stairs or deck might not be my favorite thing to do, it allows a break in my routines for working on computer. Watching squirrels and birds while doing it is the pleasant add-on. :) 

Social-Emotional Learning: Self-Management

 Happy 2023!!

It is the time of the year when we are setting new goals. I try to remind myself how important well-being goals are for us. Experiencing the awe - something larger than ourselves - is one of my favorite things. It helps me to put things in perspective, which is a very important part of goal-setting.

Photo: ET 2023 Kalaloch, WA

Living in the beautiful Pacific Northwest, I am lucky to have many opportunities to immerse in the nature. However, we can learn to find the awe in mundane things by purposefully sensing them:

A - attention: to notice things you appreciate, value, or find amazing

W - wait: to stay focused on something, inhale to experience coherence

E - exhale: to relax and expand, because this amplifies the sensations

I have also noticed that I seem to do this automatically when I walk on the beach, or see the mountains, or a rainbow, or a pretty flower, or a spiderweb with  dew drops... and many of those moments are now these SEL images.

My goal for this year is to experience more awe.  Here is more information about how to find AWE anywhere 

I hope you have a great year ahead! 

:)

Nina

Social-Emotional Learning: Social Awareness

Understanding and expressing gratitude is an important part of or Social Awareness. Gratitude is really about connections and being ready to extend and return kindness. 

It is the skill of pausing to notice what we have.

Photo: ET 2021

I love trees - all kind of trees. The evergreens, like cedars and pines, but also deciduous trees who survive their winters by dropping their leaves. In this busy time of the year (only 6 days until Winter Solstice!) the barren trees remind me of their resilience and survival strategy: digging their roots deep into the ground.

Gratitude helps me to feel grounded. How about you?

Social-Emotional Learning: Self-Awareness

Recently I have been volunteering to support a resiliency training and realized that the biggest change, the most necessary one is about our own perception.

In the classroom, how do we perceive students? Are they acting out or manipulative and naughty? Or, are they just emotionally dysregulated and trying to get their needs met with  the only tools they have learned to use? 

How can we understand ourselves better, so that we can help our students?

Social-Emotional Learning: Responsible Decision-Making

Making decisions is not always easy. Making responsible decisions is an important skill to learn - like to realize when it is safe to go fast, or when we need to slow down. Literally or figuratively. Just because the consequences of NOT slowing down would be scary.

I learned to drive in Finland, where we had winter conditions for too many months (to my liking). It IS very beautiful, of course! But one must be very mindful about the icy roads being very slippery. 

Sometimes we have too much on our plate, and that forces us to slow down. My students often have too much on their plates: studies, work, family, and so on... and I get to remind them that I care for their safety. 

I don't perceive students as disengaged or uncaring, but overwhelmed.  And I am there to help them with their studies.

Social-Emotional Learning: Self-Management

Nature never ceases to amaze me! We can learn so very much from our immediate environment, but also travelling has helped me to greatly appreciate the diversity of our home planet and how very resilient plants can be. They grow everywhere! Even on the cracked earth!

NCS2017 Iceland

Both Hawaii and Iceland are amazing places, and I have had the opportunity visit them both. Observing how quickly vegetation starts growing after lava has cooled is almost unbelievable. 

Humans are very resilient, too. Or, at least we CAN be, if we choose to. According to APA:

Resilience is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or 

challenging life experiences, especially through mental, emotional, and 

behavioral flexibility and adjustment to external and internal demands.

Managing our emotions and behaviors is an important SEL skill. What do you want to try this week?